Legend post: my wife cheated and this is how it ended

So this is a legendary post someone archived and I need to share it because the whole thing is WILD.

It started with something tiny. His wife said she was meeting a friend. Next day he gives her a ride and notices the passenger seat is pushed ALL THE WAY BACK. And he's like. huh. someone tall sat here. Then he checks her phone and there's zero texts with the friend she supposedly met. Zero.

So he goes to the guy's workplace pretending to be a customer. Tall dude. Slim. Yep.

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He sees TWO lawyers. Both say the same thing.

No criminal adultery charge (Korea decriminalized that btw). Divorce is possible but only uncontested. Text messages count as circumstantial evidence but not enough to nail the affair legally. Asset split? She gets roughly 30% of what they built together since marriage, so about 70 million won (~$52k). Consolation damages cap around 10 million won (~$7.5k). Can't even sue the other guy, not enough hard evidence.

Kids. Three of them. Two not in school yet, one in early grades. The lawyers basically told him: custody will go to the wife. Korean courts default to the mother especially for young kids. If he wants a shot he needs to wait until the kids are in school, keep documenting the affair the whole time, AND prove she's harming them economically or emotionally. Otherwise he's cooked.

Oh and they told him to do illegal surveillance. GPS tracking, location monitoring. "You'll get a small fine. It'll be worth it. Hire someone."

He also mentions he's thinking about getting paternity tests done.

The reality of all this is hitting him hard. Both lawyers said the exact same things. The system is just. not. on his side.

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And then the update nobody expected.

"It got resolved simpler than I thought."

He just. talked to her. Calmly. Told her he'd noticed her behavior changing. She immediately accused him of being paranoid and jealous. Said she's just close with a coworker, nothing's going on, can't live like this if you're gonna act this way.

So he dropped it. For two days.

Then he came back with all the evidence he'd collected. Month's worth. And he said: "I don't care what you think. I'm not listening to excuses. I already know where you've been for the last month. If you want to end this marriage I'll give you a divorce. If you don't, we keep living like this. Your choice."

She cried and said nothing physical happened. Swore up and down.

He said: it doesn't matter. I'll acknowledge him as your person. See him if you want. I'll stop being tied to family stuff, live a little more freely. Outside of parenting, I don't care what you do or who you're with.

Not "I'm done caring" but "I respect your choices."

Then he just went to sleep.

For the next few days he didn't bring it up again. And she became. a completely different person. Coming home early. Playing with the kids. Putting them to bed. Watching TV with him. Taking care of every tiny little thing. He said the house actually felt comfortable for the first time in a while.

Then she went out to meet the guy once. He told her to go. Figured she was going to end it.

He asked nothing when she came back.

Next morning she asked if she could go see a movie with him that evening. He said sure. Then she stopped and said "it's with THAT person, is that really okay?" He said sure again.

And he's just sitting there like. what is even happening.

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Final update. 20 days later.

"I'm doing surprisingly well."

He stopped all the illegal surveillance stuff. Decided what he doesn't know won't hurt him. Except he's still quietly monitoring her phone. Just in case.

Apparently the other guy proposed being "good friends" (the wife's idea, offered to the guy). The guy is still pushing hard. She's holding a firm line and cutting off conversations when he says things like "I love you" or "I miss you." Guy keeps texting. She keeps shutting it down past a certain point, then chatting normally again when he brings up everyday stuff.

And that's where the post cuts off.

No resolution. No closure. Just. this.