9 years together and he keeps stalling on marriage. what is he actually doing

okay so. 9 years. NINE. he's in his mid-30s, I'm 30, and next year would be our 10th anniversary together.

we both have stable jobs. combined savings are around 300 million won (~$220k USD). like we are not unprepared here.

I've wanted to get married young-ish, and after almost a decade together it just felt natural to actually make it happen. so since early last year I started bringing it up. we had a serious conversation where I said I wanted to get married in spring of 2023, which means we'd need to start planning in the second half of 2022. his response was literally "...yeah I guess we should?"

bro. THAT was his answer.

anyway I kept bringing it up and I genuinely thought we were on the same page. then out of nowhere earlier this year he goes "I want to do it next fall instead." okay fine, I adjusted. I told him that was fine but I at least wanted to meet his parents by September. (I have never met his parents btw. he's met mine plenty of times.)

September is coming and there's still no date set. I asked carefully and he goes "I haven't actually told them yet."

I asked when he was going to. he said he doesn't want to do it over the phone so he wants to visit them in late September or sometime in October.

and THEN he starts saying things like "there's no need to rush," and "if next fall doesn't work out we can always push it to the year after."

the year after. the YEAR AFTER.

(context: I'd suggested we book the venue first since most places in Korea get booked a full year out. just wanted to lock in a date after meeting his parents. that's it.)

we had a fight about it recently because he keeps moving the goalposts. I told him to just let me go. breaking up after 9 years would destroy me but this doesn't feel right.

he said no, he *promises* he'll do it next year, please wait for him.

and the thing is... I believe he means it. I can feel it's sincere. but he keeps stalling anyway, and I keep thinking, okay even if we make it to the year after, are we actually getting married then either?? and I can feel myself getting distant. the feelings just aren't the same anymore.

oh also. I'm not religious. his family is Christian, though he doesn't actually go to church himself. his parents apparently want me to get baptized before coming to meet them. so I've been going to church with him, and I'll probably get baptized by end of this year.

but here's the thing. if the baptism happens at the end of the year, we might not even be able to book a venue for next fall in time. so I asked him to go back and ask his parents if I really have to wait until AFTER the baptism to meet them, or if we can just meet now since I'm going to get baptized anyway.

still waiting on that answer too.

I genuinely don't know what to do at this point.